There is a saying that goes “let your haters be your motivators.” It might sound like a good idea…right? Take the negative and use it as motivation. Although it may sound good, it’s a terrible idea. I have never liked or agreed with this quote. Hatred is not good for your spirit. Jealousy and envyContinue reading “Motivated By Hate”
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Negative Projections
Projection happens when people try to mirror their inner conflicts on to you. It happens all the time. When I say all the time I mean all the time. It’s a way a person defends themselves and attributes the traits that they are secretly unhappy about in themselves onto you. I wasn’t always so cognizantContinue reading “Negative Projections”
Things Not To Say To Pregnant Women
Heyy Friends! I have been gone from writing for a while because I’m expecting a baby boy! His father and I are very excited! When I found out that I was pregnant I had so many emotions that I didn’t feel like writing anything for a long time. It was a happy time for me,Continue reading “Things Not To Say To Pregnant Women”
Finally! A Black Owned Ethical Hair Company!
If you have been with me for a while, then you know that I vowed to give up weave. I had many reasons why. If you would like to see all of my various reasons please read my previous blog “Why I Won’t Be Wearing Weaves For A While.” Long story short, it all startedContinue reading “Finally! A Black Owned Ethical Hair Company!”
Dating Outside Of The Culture
I have been dating my Black British boyfriend for a little over a year, and the assumptions that people make and the questions that people ask can get to be pretty ridiculous. I get mad sometimes, but then I realize that media often portrays people in a very limited way (as they do all overContinue reading “Dating Outside Of The Culture”
I Don’t Need More Friends in 2020 and Beyond
I will start by saying that I value friendship. My close friends are like family to me. I am not the girl who says “I don’t have any female friends” or “I don’t get along with women.” I do not feel that my gender is inferior. Women are more than capable of getting along with oneContinue reading “I Don’t Need More Friends in 2020 and Beyond”
How I’m Doing during Coronavirus
A lot has been going on. I haven’t written in a while because I am someone who only likes to write when I have something to say. I hope that all of you are doing well and staying safe. If you need to talk make sure you email me heyyfriendblog@gmail.com As an introvert I wasContinue reading “How I’m Doing during Coronavirus”
Online Dating: Why I Think It’s Best And Everything You Need To Know
I remember my first experience with online dating. It was back in the days on MySpace. It was a time when everyone thought if you dated someone online then they were crazy. I even thought it was crazy at the time. A guy sent me a message and we started conversing. To my surprise heContinue reading “Online Dating: Why I Think It’s Best And Everything You Need To Know”
How To Make: My Partner Listen
Serves: 2 Prep time: A while! Please be patient. Total time: Forever… once you get started you will have to continue. Ingredients Attentiveness | 2 drizzles Kindness | 3 cups An Open Mind | 1 whole unbiased mind Humility | 1 whole soul Patience | A dash of calm Compromise | 1 pinch (to taste)Continue reading “How To Make: My Partner Listen”
Living In Uncertainty
Let’s be honest. Most of us enjoy knowing where are headed tomorrow, where our next check is coming from, whether or not we can see family or plan trips. Unfortunately, that it not a luxury that most of us have right now. Living in uncertainty is hard. I would say that most of the fights,Continue reading “Living In Uncertainty”
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